I Was Sold A Giant Lie: This Is How I Unravelled It

We can, and should, rewrite our beliefs to align with what is authentic and true.

Most cases of abuse and trauma are anchored in an inversion of what is truthful. 

What do I mean by this? 

Well, you may have been told that freedom looked a certain way, but it was actually control. You may have believed something was the truth, but it was a manipulation and lie. Sinister motives can be disguised as friendship, and abuse can most definitely be disguised as love. When we fall for these inversions, we end up carrying around a whole lot of false beliefs. It’s like dragging a trailer-load of garbage with us in our minds! 

In my case, I believed so many things that were simply untrue, and they distorted my views around love, connection, friendship and even purpose.

In other words, I was sold a giant. And like so many abuse victims, I had no idea. 

So how did I untangle myself from this web of deceit? How did I separate lies from truth? 

I had to apply a filter of logic and sense to a situation where there was none. 

You see, my whole way of relating to the world and other people had to be dismantled. I knew that if I held onto false narratives and twisted truths, I was never going to get anywhere. So while I had no reliable barometer for the truth. I did have logic. And I learned to apply it to distinguish fiction from fact. 

I had a list of questions that I asked myself regularly, to determine whether something made logical sense. It was my plan to help me navigate my red flags. It helped me reassess the inversions of truth I’d been sold, and rewrite all of the false realties. 

When I let go of them, I allowed space for the authentic, truthful ones to come forward.